Expectations, even if you don’t admit it.
On the back of a conversation I had with a coworker this week it got me thinking about expectations again.
This is a subject that I believe is the basis for a lot of struggles people have in todays society.
Back when we were cavemen our primary focus was on survival and our entire lives we geared around surviving so we didn’t die. However as we no longer have big animals trying to eat us our minds have adapted.
It didn’t adapt in a good way.
We place expectations on others, ourselves and we perceive exceptions from others and society.
- By the age of __ society expects this of me, otherwise I am not seen as a normal person person for my age.
- I’m now __ and I haven’t done/achieved ___________ , so I must be a fuck up.
- I expect ______ to do this ________ and if they don’t they hate me/don’t love me/don’t like me etc.
- I feel _________ expects me to do this/carry this burden/step.
- Everyone expects me to hold it together.
So what is the solution ?
STOP EXPECTING !!!!!!!
Accept the present moment as it is and remind yourself this is neither good or bad it just is.
I often find myself coming back to this post cast episode to remind myself that I need to stop expecting.
Til next time…..